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North Carolina school takes a stand on bullying that makes sense

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A little boy was told his my little pony backpack/lunch box were a distraction and a trigger for bullying and to pick another backpack/lunch box.

This apparently was the wrong thing to do. It seems adults would rather expend the schools time and resources to babysitting the kids non school related my little pony gear.

A) Why would a parent set their child up to be bullied by making them low hanging fruit this way?

B) Is a my Lil pony backpack/lunch box essential for school?

C) Do you agree with the schools decision to ask the parent to not send the child to school with a distraction like this?

D) If it was local I would gladly buy the kid a backpack/lunch box in the school colors to resolve this issue and explain to the kid why that was the best answer to the issue

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I don't think it was the best way to handle the problem if there is no dress code/accessory policy. I think the best way to handle it would be just institute a policy that all backpacks and other accessories must be generic colors, no branding (other than the brand manufacturing the accessories). That way this one person isn't isolated because now he's not the kid who wore a My Little Pony backpack, he's the kid who was forced not to wear the My Little Pony backpack, which will still cause him to be bullied. The action the school took probably made him a bigger target, honestly, by pointing it out to the world.

Also, kids should be taught not to put so much stock into what other kids/people think. By making this kid (and only this kid) not wear what he wants, it's saying that the opinions of others are more important than his own. With no policy like I stated above in place (that I'm aware of), he should be able to use any backpack he wants as long as it doesn't violate any school policies. Just change the policy to not allow accessories that aren't generic, and the whole problem is solved (for the future. They already made matters worse for this one kid).

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When I was in school we had arms tooo carry lunch and books.....

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Yes, let's make everyone else change their backpack style to accommodate one kid. That makes perfect sense.

Orrrr , we could ask the school to do its job and monitor bullying and let the kids wear whatever backpack he wants.

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Is the kid in elementary, middle, or high school? Because odds are, either the kid or his dad (or both?) is a brony.

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Yes, let's make everyone else change their backpack style to accommodate one kid. That makes perfect sense.

Orrrr , we could ask the school to do its job and monitor bullying and let the kids wear whatever backpack he wants.

There should already be a policy like it in place, though. Generic colors for backpacks makes sense. Having kids with random graphics all over their backpacks can ONLY be a distraction, nothing positive. By forcing only one kid to change his backpack, the school is bullying that kid. Not a great message to send, all in the name of anti-bullying.

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What distraction does it exactly create? I guess I was a real asshole by wearing a Ninja Turtles backpack in elementary school. And don't start on my MLB Trapper Keeper. TOTAL ANARCHY AHHHH!

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What distraction does it exactly create? I guess I was a real asshole by wearing a Ninja Turtles backpack in elementary school. And don't start on my MLB Trapper Keeper. TOTAL ANARCHY AHHHH!

I didn't say they all are distractions, but they can only be a distraction. They can't make you a better student.

What's wrong with saying just get a generic backpack? And I don't disagree with what you said about letting him wear what he wants and the school monitor bullying, which is the reactive approach. I offered a proactive solution, definitely better than making 1 kid change and making him a bigger target for bullying.

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Is the kid in elementary, middle, or high school? Because odds are, either the kid or his dad (or both?) is a brony.

A wild bijoukaiba appears.....

That's what I was thinking too. His older brother is probably a broni so he tought it would be cool to have one.

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There should already be a policy like it in place, though. Generic colors for backpacks makes sense. Having kids with random graphics all over their backpacks can ONLY be a distraction, nothing positive. By forcing only one kid to change his backpack, the school is bullying that kid. Not a great message to send, all in the name of anti-bullying.

So remove the parenting aspect of it in favor of dumbing it down to the lowest common denominator. Makes sense to me. I mean because one parent either can't or chooses not to think about the effects of setting their child up to be bullied let's remove the possibility of it happening again.

On the other side of the argument, if the child really wants to show is pony pride at school then let him deal with the consequences of it. If it is that important let him it will worth the taunting he receives. Is it really that much different than a college football fan wearing his teams colors in another schools hometown? A little taunting/bullying might be just what kids these days need to toughen then up if their parents are not going their job. As long as it isn't taken to extremes it usually gets old and kids move on to the next thing pretty quickly. Kids are way too sensitive these days anyway.

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If he's to old to be picking out a My lil pony backpack or a boy and is doing so they should do nothing. He may as well start now and get toughened up because he's probably in for a whole life of getting bullied.

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So remove the parenting aspect of it in favor of dumbing it down to the lowest common denominator. Makes sense to me. I mean because one parent either can't or chooses not to think about the effects of setting their child up to be bullied let's remove the possibility of it happening again.

On the other side of the argument, if the child really wants to show is pony pride at school then let him deal with the consequences of it. If it is that important let him it will worth the taunting he receives. Is it really that much different than a college football fan wearing his teams colors in another schools hometown? A little taunting/bullying might be just what kids these days need to toughen then up if their parents are not going their job. As long as it isn't taken to extremes it usually gets old and kids move on to the next thing pretty quickly. Kids are way too sensitive these days anyway.

It comes down to the school to handle bullying accordingly. Teasing and taunting students is against he rules...his lunchbox wasn't.

If this was Arizona and a kid was being bullied for taking his American flag lunchbox would your solutions still be the same?? If not then you're focusing on the wrong aspects of the situation.

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It comes down to the school to handle bullying accordingly. Teasing and taunting students is against he rules...his lunchbox wasn't.

If this was Arizona and a kid was being bullied for taking his American flag lunchbox would your solutions still be the same?? If not then you're focusing on the wrong aspects of the situation.

Kids picking on you for being a fan of faggy toy and kids disrespecting the USA are the same to you?

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Kids picking on you for being a fan of faggy toy and kids disrespecting the USA are the same to you?

His point is bullying is wrong, regardless of the reason. You just proved his point.

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Kids picking on you for being a fan of faggy toy and kids disrespecting the USA are the same to you?

Your "solution" that makes sense is to let bullies dictate what people can and can't bring to school. It doesn't matter how you feel about his choices(though there are actually teenage boys(straight) who like my little pony....actually I think HFS likes it. Point is, your basing your opinion on how you feel about what he's being bullied over, which is the wrong way to look at it.

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His point is bullying is wrong, regardless of the reason. You just proved his point.

Moral equivalency is never a winning argument. And claiming a moral equivalency between my Lil pony and the USA invalidates their contribution to the discussion

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Your "solution" that makes sense is to let bullies dictate what people can and can't bring to school. It doesn't matter how you feel about his choices(though there are actually teenage boys(straight) who like my little pony....actually I think HFS likes it. Point is, your basing your opinion on how you feel about what he's being bullied over, which is the wrong way to look at it.

Its school. The single kids protest at being picked on because of something they actively choose to bring to school caused the the issue for all parties involved. Remove the issue that the kid brought or overlook the kid being picked on because they brought it on them self is the reasonable adult answer. This isn't a kid with an issue outside their control that needs the intervention of an adult. Its a kid that actively chooses to bring this on his self.

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Its school. The single kids protest at being picked on because of something they actively choose to bring to school caused the the issue for all parties involved. Remove the issue that the kid brought or overlook the kid being picked on because they brought it on them self is the reasonable adult answer. This isn't a kid with an issue outside their control that needs the intervention of an adult. Its a kid that actively chooses to bring this on his self.

Ok....so bullying isn't against the rules now. I didn't know that.

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Public Schools Today....Going Down along with Our Country...Wake Up Guys.

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Ok....so bullying isn't against the rules now. I didn't know that.

You take some level or responsibility for the choices you make. The world has no obligation to protect you from your decisions.

This isn't some kid being picked on for a medical condition or tragic situation they have no control over.

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Its school. The single kids protest at being picked on because of something they actively choose to bring to school caused the the issue for all parties involved. Remove the issue that the kid brought or overlook the kid being picked on because they brought it on them self is the reasonable adult answer. This isn't a kid with an issue outside their control that needs the intervention of an adult. Its a kid that actively chooses to bring this on his self.

So is bullying wrong, or is My Little Pony wrong? If My Little Pony is wrong, then that means bullies get to pick and choose what is acceptable, because if MLP was acceptable they wouldn't bully the kid. So, with that in mind, what happens when they start bullying kids for being black? Is that now ok, and we can undo the Civil Rights Movement because bullies decided that being black was wrong?

The school tried to prevent bullying, which is commendable. But they targeted one child, which is bullying. They either need to make a policy on backpacks/lunchboxes to require them to be generic, or they need to let the kid bring what he wants and punish bullies, which has been the status quo for decades. But to overlook him being bullied because he brought it on himself is absolutely the stupidest post anyone has ever made on these forums, and there have been hundreds of stupid posts, so congrats.

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You take some level or responsibility for the choices you make. The world has no obligation to protect you from your decisions.

A school does have an obligation to protect kids... lmfao get out of here with your nonsense.

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